Did you use correction fluid during your school years? Were we allowed to make mistakes? Were you praised for your mistakes or scolded?
Perfectionism for the Sake of Perfectionism
There are people with a rich inner world (though I don’t think that’s the cause) for whom it is very important that everything is perfectly arrangedâeven objects. Here, perfectionism is more of an art form than a medical diagnosis. Seeing how such a person organizes material space or processes can be mesmerizing! But is it easy for such a person to live in our world?
Perfectionism as a Fear of Mistakes
To avoid making mistakes, everything must be perfect. Perhaps this stems from our school daysâwhen we feared mistakes like the plague and did everything in our power to satisfy our teachers and parents. Correction fluid was a person’s best friend.
Modern Tools
Nowadays, thereâs simply no place for mistakes. With the help of technological crutches, we begin to appear perfect. If you were writing by hand and made a mistakeâwould it be shameful? Is it acceptable to simply cross it out and leave a trace of the “crime”? Perhaps this helps to show that the author of the mistake is a real, living person?
Extremes
Often, a perfectionist is a person of extremes. Everything must be done either perfectly or not at all. If thereâs even a suspicion that a certain task cannot be completed perfectly or is too difficultâit wonât be done at all. It’s better not to do it at all than to achieve less than perfect results.
Who Would You Want as Your Dentist?
We might criticize or laugh at someone who tends to be a perfectionistâsorting everything that can be sorted and organizing everything into boxes. And this takes up a lot of time. But if you were getting a filling done or taking your car to a repair shopâwould you want the person to be a perfectionist, or just a “regular guy” whoâs satisfied with an average result?
Thereâs a Time for Everything
Is it possible to turn perfectionism on when needed? To activate it when itâs really necessaryâlike when designing a building, repairing a car, or giving a haircut? The rest of the time in our livesâimagine how much energy is spent maintaining perfect order in everything. Everything we own requires our attention to maintain its condition. Perhaps perfectionism is a good remedy for perfectionists? Everything should be in perfect orderâbut there will be much less of it.