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We try so hard to accomplish as much as possible. To be efficient. Get more done. Plan your downtime. We hear all this in countless books, videos, podcasts, and who knows where else. We squeeze ourselves dry to get more done and extract more from our time. Have you ever been truly bored? So bored that you have absolutely nothing to do? If you have, we often quickly find something to occupy ourselves with. Most likely, we grab our smartphones, or a housewife always finds some extra chores to do around the house. Nowadays, we’ve completely forgotten how to be bored. ...

It’s Fashionable Everyone around is saying that you need to set goals and achieve them. Then set new goals and achieve them again. If you don’t achieve them, you should feel guilty, experience a drop in self-esteem, and urgently find ways to learn how to achieve goals. There’s an even sadder scenario—falling into the other extreme and stopping doing anything altogether. The idea of achieving goals, like the idea of low-fat products in its time, is just an idea. Let’s look at a less popular approach to this theory. ...

Did you use correction fluid during your school years? Were we allowed to make mistakes? Were you praised for your mistakes or scolded? Perfectionism for the Sake of Perfectionism There are people with a rich inner world (though I don’t think that’s the cause) for whom it is very important that everything is perfectly arranged—even objects. Here, perfectionism is more of an art form than a medical diagnosis. Seeing how such a person organizes material space or processes can be mesmerizing! But is it easy for such a person to live in our world? ...

A Bit of an Introduction Minimalism has become incredibly popular, though perhaps its peak has already passed. As we dive deeper into the world of virtual pleasures, tangible treasures become more valuable. The easier it becomes to purchase things, the more popular the idea that things aren’t necessary. Why Simply Getting Rid of Things Won’t Help There’s a wonderful book by Erich Fromm titled Иметь или быть. It’s not as simple as the title might suggest. It’s not just about not owning things. We strive to possess emotions, guarantees, options, status… I won’t even get into how much a person might want to possess another person—in every sense. ...